Friday, March 10, 2006

Loner is Me - Life at a stand still

Met a friend of mine recently. He remarked to me "You know, you have now become some what of a loner.....very unlike yourself". That comment got me to thinking, what is it that I have done or not do to give people that impression.?

What is critically obvious is the amount of hours I used to allocate to friends and colleagues have perhaps been cut down either by time management or by circumstances. What used to be allocation of about 15 hours per week for mentoring and coaching now has gone into Gym classes and excercises. When I stop to think, wow, thats approximately 2.5 hours per day. Putting in context of a 15 hour day that I normally operate under, thats 1/6th of the day apportioned to excercise.

Recent circumstances also dictates changes in my circle of friends as some will be upgrading (sic is this correct?) their life from a single status to that of a married one. Others have moved on to new carreer which also brought about busyness and change of lifestyle. These has also lead to the shringkage in my usual cliques.

One of my closer buddies is also busy in preparation of a new addition to the family and has recently made some carreer move which brought about a change in lifestyle and outlook. This has somewhat "restricted" his movement and thus we have been only in contact via Instant Messaging.

Looking back, I may have brought this change onto myself since the cut down in these interactivity has lead to lesser opputunity in social events (eating together, expanding new friends and opputunities etc). Well, looks like I better get use to this kind of lifestyle as its going to be a long journey for me to reclaim my health. On the positive side of it, perhaps it also time for me to give other people space ;), who knows, I may have been cramping other people's life.

7 comments:

Anonymous said...

MAC, loner u r? Tell me once again....even a fren of yours bz of preparing this n that for turning point of life, or moved to the new stage of life (due to whatever it is...)doesnt mean tat they ignore you, avoiding u, dunt have time for u.....'Fren' need u....just be liek before....go makan, movie, and bookshop....we need each other well...know each other good...

spoonfork said...

loner? oh come on dude, i called you twice last night and you were busy bird watching... naughty naughty you...

Anonymous said...

if what ur spending time on now is based on ur priorites (surrounding ur core values), who cares what other people say or think.... start thinking bout what matters most to u u....

The Editor said...

[spoonfork] Nah, U must be mistaken, I was not bird watching, I was watching dumb bells being lifted. ;) I was in such pain.

The Editor said...

[Anonymous] Don't take me wrongly. I don't intend to soud as if I am moaning or in dispear. I am just stating the facts as I observe. In fact I kinda like the idea of being a loner. Kinda makes you appreciate life of potential asshole ;)

spoonfork said...

so loneliness turns one into an asshole?

The Editor said...

[spoonfork]I am definitely one already